Sexual Materialism

I couldn't stop myself from writing a thing about this: Today someone who grew with me asked me if I would woo someone he would have flirted first before being “engaged” with someone he doesn't like.

The thing sounded me sour (as a teaspoon of salt).

Some time ago he told me he was about to be related to someone who is older than he is... The reason sounded me creepy and materialistic, as he himself lightly acknowledged that day; but this time he invited me to flirt to a friend of his old girlfriend.

I know there are Internet sites to match with your interests, your life goals -even for sex- but I believe in genuine love or some kind of real affections that are not linked to monetary reasons -sort of business- on this highly secularized search of the opposite sex. He met her somewhere in the streets. He doesn't use Internet but his friends...

He told me that person he mentioned is younger than the one he has. He said she is the owner of an apartment and an office in Ccs, and that she is not as rich as the one he now dates; because the one he flirts (in common consent) owns some real state in Spain, Dominican Republic, and here in Venezuela. Is she aware of buying “friendship”?

Doesn't this sound like male prostitution?

Will you buy friendship (or love) with some wealth?

Five decades served me right to see money is as convenient as a loving person willing to be loyal; but love and friendship were not to be sold or begged.  Did they?  Was I too blind too see it that way?

I know I sought, before being a Christian, nice looking ladies, illicit or free sex; but I thought people grew up to seek healthy characters, a loving personality, someone to cling someday because that person  is willing to love and care genuinely.

He is not Christian, but I think he is close to a “convenient” state of prostitution... I don't know hers! (one pays, the other agrees to receive some money).

It is not a secret old men and women like young people. I know some like to lure them away, but I won't pay for love and much less for lusty sex. Why do people insist on those faults? I'm not blind! But I will run from that type of lurking ways.

Yes! I'm shocked.

I believe in the genuine attraction of people. More than that, I believe God could lead me to the right person, and not following the convenience of my selfish heart or the emptiness of my pocket.

Wow! That's male prostitution.

Absolutely!

I know he has paid for the favors he has received from young girls or ladies, but he seems to be doing the opposite thing now.

Is this happening in your culture too?

I know we don't live immersed in a Christian culture; but I don't think this is happening ALL over the world. I know we had wrong motives when being out of God's ways, but it's hard to believe this evil is widely spread, even inside the family or friends.

I thanked God that my children aren't misbehaving like that. I checked they don't like porn, although they're not dating girls with the exact commitment to be utterly married... Yes! I did wrong and much more than them; but I had the mindset that dating someone was to be married, someday.

Just letting these thoughts flow!

Do you have an idea to share here?

A. Toro