Hide & Seek

There is an interesting human behavior in society and on the Internet. I would name it “Hide and Seek”, but surely mind researchers have named it properly.

I've seen the way how many people use to dress up each day, but on Fridays, many of them wear the “best”, same way church goers dress up to attend some meetings.

All the week we dress like common workers or the average, but on Fridays some others look better, well-fashioned and, many reasons are concerning socializing, their going out with somebody. Isn't it like wearing a mask or an uniform?

My sister's daughter told me some of her reasons... The company where she works gives its workers permission to relax, to wear casual on Fridays and she feels better, but she has to keep the company's standard and executive modesty.

As an outsider, I see how girls try to look sexier on Fridays, wearing higher shoes when they're going to work, and I cannot not be fooled, they are free to do what they're pleased and allowed by conventional common laws but, Am I keeping God's standards of modesty?

I cannot deny the fact that I've looked one some girls the way I shouldn't but, Am I the only one fighting against the lust of these eyes?

Some of them have looked me down while I just stared or felt “alive”.  Ja! Ja!

I'm not the only. I know of girls, ladies and men who struggle the same (we all are humans). There are some fleshy ideas coming when we look wrongly at someone we considered sexy or nice looking, since we were trained to think the way the world keeps on teaching and I'm thankful that married women or engaged couples have noticed that certain “naked” fashion and open-minded social behaviors make any to look “sexy” or humanly desirable, far beyond normal friendship or casual dating.

God's fashion and dressing standards are being learned by those who walk in His Spirit. Those who know how eyes can lie, and are developing self control, even when we can forget -sometimes- Jesus gave us a lecture on avoiding looking at persons lustfully (it's a human drive that calms down sometimes when being married)

I'm thankful for those women who hide and are dressed up with modesty, married or not. These are the ones who know what they want and what a man can really offer them to be married. I'm against free open-minded dating, unless I have known a young lady willing to marry me but, if we haven't been good friends, the road is lost... I have wasted time!

On the Internet I foolishly laughed on some tricks I know. I've seen dissatisfied women pretending to be single or separated, but they're not alone. Some single mothers “hide and seek” same ways like men, but these last are easily understood, because this trick has always happened on secular society, and the “law” permits anyone to lie and hurt others, under common social consent.

I know real stories of men and women cheating on line. Some of them pretended to play a fair hide and seek game, but many were married or engaged to another, and some of my female friends have told me sad stories where they felt a real love, they felt being loved by the appropriate Mr Right One and, when personally meeting in a date, they were actually loving women who have used their mask to lie, using the Internet to access humans minds or personal writings.

There are good stories to talk about (I have published some of them on the Internet) and this kind of online human intercourse may serve those who never had a real life or a short one for themselves. “Dating” or playing “Hide and Seek” on the Internet, as well as in real life, may serve some to grow up, but grown-up Christians ought to be reminded this is just another play that can hurt and sometimes kill, both, emotionally and physically.

I like those persons, like me, who warn people not to enter their profile or info. It's like those houses that placed some signs telling people: “Beware of the dogs”. Is it a rotty dog you would meet? (is it a hungry tiger or a cougar?)   :P

No transgressors are allowed, but PMs are sent to “knock down minds doors”, and it's shown some houses are broken in, same way some minds are cracked here or somewhere else.

Christians minds are set on God's standards. God's laws are firewalls and anti-virus.

I know that, those who are using avatars have their committed reasons to hide and to avoid being sought (Some people are for chatting, and not wooing).

I have lately seen how girls and ladies are chased in the streets, same way on chat rooms. I'm glad God allowed me to be men. I've seen how girls are pretty different than us, and no wonder why we keep on searching for the missing piece rather than the missing peace. They are lovable, because God made them to be lovable, more than once (unless we both misbehave).

I beg women understand our misbehaviors. The world gave us same bad lessons you were trained to avoid or cling to. The Internet may serve to play games, but it also serves to train our children to avoid being cheated or hurt. Cats and lions hugely train their kids to live: A dog bites to avoid being bitten, and a sweet bee stings, when she sees someone tries to steal her honey (or money).

I don't like playing games, I won't knock on “risky zones”, I don't like hidden faces, and will not visit those who deeply love their signs of “Beware of the dog” placed at the entrance as “welcome” carpets (I don't like to bark at the wrong tree).

Some Christians sites are bringing blessings rather than other places. Some of us are so deeply hurt that we do not dare to be healed, and don't try a new healing (that's lawful and conventional understood).

Perhaps here, on earth, we have too little common ground. Perhaps my likeness serves only my mirror so I could wash my face once, to look after my selfish thoughts, and to be engaged with dreams, because urban people like to find out where their prey is... Is this instinctively done by Christians too? I quit!

Life is a lottery, and I have heard the same. I don't want to bet any longer: “No one could receive anything if it doesn't come from above.” Said John, the baptist.

I beg the righteous kingdom of God comes soon into my life. I beg to be taken into His presence and have some room to be a true hermit, the way I think I am.

Betting never pays well! Because: “Easy comes easy goes”

Looking at the positive.

I love Jesus' way to approach people. He wasn't playing games and, more than that, He played fairly honest when asking questions. I'd like to share the way He talked to a “solitary” woman, during the noon of a hot day (John 4:6). They talked and, apparently, they both were alone (John 4:8), because the disciples marveled when returning (John 4:27).

Jesus wasn't playing “Hide and Seek”, He wasn't sending hypocritical PMs, but He only asked her to bring her mate to share, and she said she wasn't married (John 4:16-18). Was she wearing social masks?

She became interested in which thing He has to offer and, in fact, she asked Him, who He was when perceiving His grace (John 4:12).

Jesus was not judgmental. Instead, He said she was telling “the truth”, but we are aware she was telling another thing and many of us say one thing, avoiding telling the envious or hidden truth: Are you single? I'm divorced. Would I rather say separated or engaged? No! I can't afford it.

Jesus always acted according to His preaching. That time, 2000 years ago, He came to save humans; next time He will come to judge, while interceding for those He knew, for those He loved, those who have repented their sins and sought after His will.

We don't know what is in everybody's mind, but we play hide and seek. Jesus knew she was telling half the truth and He acknowledged the positive side of it, and bypassed the negative. We play games and hurt, but that's not the way it should be.

Why some people warn not to use PMs? (Personal Messages) Up to them!

Why do I need to use PMs, if I can say openly my real thoughts? Privacy is foolish. The Internet servers are monitored and, more important than this, I could be banned by God ETERNALLY.

We are afraid of many things. We don't want to be molested or disturbed. We don't want to be hurt (while hurting and hunting the prey).

I seldom go to hidden faces or places. I always looked after nice looking faces, and seldom to the ugly duck...

Should I say, instead, “We” to mention more people than just the evil in me? (I regret this code working in my mind, so I protest.)

I will not apologize for being me. I cannot remove this incoherent program I own deep in me (but I keep on trying).

I thank you just for being you, for letting me know who you are; and I did nothing to help, but confessed me and denounce the world we all are living in.

A.T.